Introduction to Love Notes………………………………….iii
Instructor Tips……………………………………………………xi
Love Notes Video and Resource Guide……………….xv
Lesson 1: Relationships Today……………………………..1
- Relationships Today
- Defining a Vision
- Choosing Reds or Greens?
- Introduction to the Trusted Adult Connection Activities
Lesson 2: Knowing Yourself………………………………….23
- Good Relationships Start with You
- Understanding My Personality Style
- Examining Family Origin
Lesson 3: My Expectations—My Future…………………43
- What’s Important?
- The Power of Expectations
Lesson 4: Attractions and Starting Relationships…..57
- Relationship Pyramid
- The Chemistry of Attraction
Lesson 5: Principles of Smart Relationships………….83
- Smart or Not-So-Smart?
- Seven Principles of Smart Relationships
- Seven Questions to Ask
- Three Sides of Love
Lesson 6: Is It a Healthy Relationship?…………………113
- How Can You Tell?
- Having Fun—It’s Important!
- Breaking Up
Lesson 7: Dangerous Love…………………………………..133
- Early Warnings and Red Flags
- Violence: Why it Happens, What Helps, Signs of Greatest Danger
- Sexual Assault and Consent
- Sex Trafficking Prevention
- Draw the Line of Respect
Lesson 8: Decide, Don’t Slide! Pathways & Sequences Towards Success………………………………………………….167
- The High Costs of Sliding
- The Low-Risk Deciding Approach
- Making Decisions
- Pathways and Sequences Towards Success
Lesson 9: Communication and Healthy Relationships………………201
- Communication Patterns Learned in Family
- Patterns that Harm Relationships
- Angry Brains and the Power of Time Outs
- The Speaker Listener Technique—When Talking is Difficult
- Relationships in the Digital Age
Lesson 10: Communication Challenges and More Skills………….235
- Complain and Raise Issues Effectively
- Hidden Issues: What Pushes Your Button?
- A Problem-Solving Model
- A Brief Review
- Constantly Connected — For Better or Worse
Lesson 11: Let’s Talk About Sex………………………………………271
- Let’s Talk About Sex
- What is Intimacy, Actually?
- Am I Ready?
- Risks of Sliding into Sex — Benefits of Deciding
- Navigating Relationships in the Digital Age
- Are We on the Same Page?
- Drawing Intimacy Lines and Pacing
Lesson 12: Let’s Plan for Choices……………………………………317
- Test Your Sex Smarts
- STDs and HIV Are for Real
- Planning for Choices
- A Discussion: Internet Porn
- Pressure Situations—Assertiveness Skills
Lesson 13: Through the Eyes of a Child………………………….375
- Child Looking for a Family
- What about Fathers?
- Child Speak: Brighter Futures
- Decisions about Living Together
- Planning for Success—Wrap-Up
Appendix……………………………………………………………………437
- Supplemental Activities: Designing a Personal Policy for the Digital Age; Cyberbullying
- Background & Research on Screen Time and Social Media
- Film Guide for Antwone Fisher
- About the Author
- Colored Activity Cards